They may both struggle with their "S" Sensing , however, which is down in the gutter. For the INFJ, they need to express who they are in the physical realm in order to grow their Se Extraverted Sensing instead of only relying on intuition. If you only rely on intuition, it will be like having a super-powerful right arm with a gimpy, in-need-of-being-amputated left arm.
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You can get in tune with your Sensing side by cooking, dancing, doing chores, pottery, hiking, etc. Slow your mind down and be more conscious of what you're doing. This will help you become grounded in reality. You might not like it at first, but if you balance this out, you'll also have stronger intuition.
Si is one of the most difficult functions to understand and grow. It's not something the western world promotes, but the eastern world gets it. Si has to do with understanding the physical processes within. You can do this through meditation, chakra balancing, praying, etc. Try spending time by yourself for 30 minutes and going through each part of your body and asking how it feels. Do this until the storm of intuition in your mind stops talking both through your mouth and brain.
If an ENFP refuses to take care of their Fi and Si for things they consider more fun, those qualities will stab them in the back. ENFPs are among the least judgmental and most inclusive of the MBTI personality types, and they love finding and cultivating the potential in others.
Their Ne allows them to understand different points of view, and their Fi gives them a strong capacity for empathy. They're known for being open-minded and enthusiastic novelty-seekers. More than anything, ENFPs fear boredom and stagnation. With extroverted intuition guiding them, they can see how things fit in at an advanced, macrocosmic level.
You may drive an ENFP crazy with too many details and structure when what they really crave is openness, both in ideas and in their lifestyle. Though they're skilled at looking at the big picture, ENFPs can also go all the way to the bottom with introverted sensing, where they must ask questions of their body, how it feels, why it feels the way it does. The more ENFPs can force themselves to better understand this, the more they'll grow and appreciate everything.
This can lead to anxiety, restlessness, and trouble sleeping. The ENFP is the champion and always wants to involve people, spread ideas, and get things in motion. But they have a more introspective side that they don't always know how to convey or whether they should convey it at all. They love deep conversations, which engage their Fe and Ni functions, and they're deeply concerned with quality and authenticity in all they do.
They love learning about what's in this world, questioning what's out there and how they can apply it their value system, and testing the waters to see what resonates with them spiritually. The INFJ wants to be understood and needs help coming out of their shell because they are the rarest personality type, making them feel constantly like their ideas and feelings don't fit in with the rest of the way the group feels. INFJs often feel unheard and misunderstood by those around them, which can cause them to question their value in a world that appears indifferent to their insights.
This, in turn, makes them more prone to depression than many other personality types. The INFJ also struggles with being quiet because their dominant function is introverted intuition—their first objective is to process information introspectively. Until this hits their emotional center and they can translate the information empathetically, they tend to keep it to themselves.
Thanks to the complementary nature of their personalities, even if things don't work out romantically between these types, they're likely to remain close friends. The intellectual satisfaction that accompanies their interactions creates a deep bond between the two, and they truly bring out the best in each other. Whether you're looking at this relationship from the outside or you're half of the pair, here are some quick ways to tell it's an INFJ-ENFP connection. I have seen many MBTI zodiac pairings you have written about.
Could be potentially manipulative, but could also be a very kind hearted person. The Cancer sign and extroverted-feeling function should be very loud. This person will likely be spiritual, charitable, and very feminine, if not motherly. The Cancer will strive to be the best it can be, but will feel it falls short.
She tries too hard to be perfect. This is also a very intelligent person, but often misunderstood. They love deeply, sometimes showing too much of their heart, and other times being too quiet. Huge waves of emotion follow them everywhere. Sometimes they feel lonely. An incredibly bright person who is also friendly. Just about everyone and their dog is going to like this man. As the ENFP he is the champion, but as the Aquarius, he also has an extra dosage of brains, wit, and sarcasm. This person will likely to do well in life, venturing into school and also being somewhat of a hippie.
This is an incredibly open minded person, and he blesses the world through that. Aquarius could potentially outgrow the Cancer. They may feel burdened by her. Aquarius could also potentially be highly attracted to her and forget everything else. If the Cancer is creative, Aquarius will likely stay longer. Cancer is looking for devotion and something deep. Sign in or sign up and post using a HubPages Network account. Comments are not for promoting your articles or other sites. When I remind myself the women I ve met in my life.
The most attractive were the most adventurous types of women, a bit hippe, and with many interests. They were just naturally beautiful by the energy they were sharing with others. They usually tend to have a looooots of friends and I think they were growing up among the boys like having the brothers only, so they used to climb on the trees more than playing with the dolls. It was love at first sight 13 years ago. We declared our love and discussed getting married the night we met -- and now here we are with two kids and 3 on the way.
We are both artists and when we met it was like the entire world around us disappeared. People around us were a little weirded out by the intensity of our connection. We still share a wonderful deep intuitive empathy and bizarre mutual sense of humor. We are ultra focused on our family. We both need to do "real world" activities that ground us, and we struggle with clutter if we allow too much stuff into our living space. I have helped him with his emotional self-awareness, organization, and strategizing. He has helped me to be more gentle, flexible, and "big picture" with myself.
Despite coming from different geographic and cultural backgrounds, we have managed to work slowly and diligently through our differences with kindness and patience and our marriage is rock-solid. Thanks for writing this article, it was really fun to see so much of ourselves reflected in it.
I slowly realized that I had a crush on him so I started texting him. We would talk every single night until we finally crashed around 2AM—ruined my sleep schedule but it was worth it. He picked me up. After hours of nonstop talking, we fell silent. He kissed me underneath the stars. The next week was probably the best of my life. The last night we spent together, I realized I loved him.
I am still deeply in love with him. I'm a hardcore INFJ. When we met for the first time it was fireworks and we knew we belonged together instantly. I moved 1, miles to be with him. Best decision of my life. This article was our relationship to a T. We're dying about how accurate this entire thing is. If we're both single when we're both done going to school on opposite ends of the country, I'm marrying that man!
ENFP men are everywhere! You'll find them in creative arts, anthropology, leading volunteer work. They live to be in the heart of projects. Too bad that with my dearest ENFP we never really got all of it; our contact ended sadly just after there was finally chance for something more. Still hoping to meet more of these lovely ENFP men in the future, though: Only took us13 days of being insepperable to realize we had fallen for each other then we went unicorn hunting! There was an instant connection between us, and your article was so helpful in understanding why.
I'd love to experience this kind of relationship though.. This is the best write ever, so accurate! There's a kind of hippie emotional surplus from the two that's intoxicating. We started to become friends about three months ago, because I approached him a few times and each time he would be quiet. Then we just kept running into each other. We plan to only spend a few hours hanging out and then it turns into an entire night of gas station food and driveway conversations until 4 in the morning.
I would go as far to say I view him as my best friend. Like no one has ever been my total opposite yet exactly what I needed at the same time. I help him out because I kind of push him along and he helps me not overly stress. He knows when my anxiety flares up and how to talk me down, he knows when i'm not doing okay and knows how to make me laugh with ease. I know when he is sad or needs an ear and we just work.
I'm incredibly grateful to have him in my life as a friend. But if you look closer you will find out that we are just very nice honest folks. If you accept us you will find that we are more likely to spend time with you than anyone else on that party. Just keep looking at us and we will eventually say something, well anything.
Once us ENFPs find out that actually like, or generally love people we love you - easy as that. I'm dating an INFJ atm - well kind of dating. It's really difficult for me, that's why I like her I guess.
She is so warm, the feeling is insane - I adore her. I think I'm on a secret mission here, I want to find out how it is to drink coffee at her place. But she moves so sllllllllooooooooowwwwwww. I mean it like seriously. Two steps forwards two steps backwards, it's like a dance. Well anyways enjoying my time with her and I'm very sure she is enjoying hers with me. If things don't work out I am actually glad I met her anyways. I used to not bother enough with the shy ones, but they are great. The bad thing is I still neeed that coffee. Thank you author, your article is a really good read and it gives hope - who knows what the future holds.
Interesting, I've experience some of these things with other personality types but not all of them. I would like to. This has been one of my favorite articles. I finally found my INFJ and this article could not be more accurate! Had us laughing after I shared it with him. This analysis fit us perfectly. You've got to work on your confidence. You're way down in the gutter being hard on yourself, and that's got to stop.
You need to take care of yourself and your self-perceptions before you get into a healthy relationship. And also, you are young. Dating in college is often only the beginning. Don't get so preoccupied by one person to the point that it makes you go down this dark spiral. I'm sure this is a lovely man and you can get to know him better. You don't want to focus so much on someone who isn't available. He can't be available to your needs. You'll find love one way or another, and you don't have to be in an arranged marriage. And you're being Catholic doesn't condemn you.
What you need is some positivity. Work on what makes you shine, do some pampering, give yourself some self-love. Men are much more attracted to women who appear positive than give off a negative vibe. Work on your vibe and you'll have a way better chance of attracting someone. You have time to figure these things out. Don't be so down in the dumps acting like your life will never reach what it needs to reach.
Be thankful for what you have. Loved reading and discovering all this. I'm an INJF myself, and can resonate on all levels! This article on the other hand explains all the crazy and beautiful friends i have in my life Don't be too hard on yourself. A negativity spiral does nothing for you. Work on loving yourself from the inside out and you'll attract someone who is doing the same. I feel like being an INFJ is a curse. I don't feel like a normal human being.
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I am sorry, I accidentally posted this two times. I thought my first post did not get through. Things have been crazy so far for me. I relocated to Houston,TX two months ago since my dad got a job there. Plus I had to transfer to another college in Houston and I will be starting my second year of college there as a transfer student next month. The thing is, I am very good friends with this awesome guy who I went to my old college with back in Chicago. So, I met him during a drama club audition, which happened during my 2nd semester of my college freshman year. I developed strong feelings for him as I got to know him during drama club.
I felt like we both had shared interests and I was able to connect with him. He is such a sweet, optimistic, and a fun loving guy. Everyone loves being around him and he has a huge friend group. One problem is I felt little of jealous of Mutaz when I saw him dating someone else. It is soo stupid of me. I am only his friend. Also we are both of different religions since he is a Muslim and I am a devout Catholic so an interfaith relationship won't work out since they are short lived. I felt like the whole world was falling apart because I can't be the one for Mutaz and he is taken. I was sad when I saw how they two happily joke around with each other and made deep connections with each other and things can never be that way between me and him.
I felt soo anxious and worried about this that I lost my sleep over this. Is it normal to feel this way? Is there anything wrong with me? I also miss seeing him everyday ever since I moved to Houston. He also misses me and told me that he will never stop being my friend. Because of this, I also feel like I will end up in an arranged marriage. I will never find the guy I am looking for and remain single forever.
My parents will just marry me off to some stranger and expect me to be a servant for him and his family. I feel like that is my fate. I feel like I never ever deserved to be with someone as awesome as him because I am a devout Catholic, because I was born in India, and because I have an autistic brother. All I deserve is to be chopped into pieces and fed to the hyenas because I wanted to be with an awesome ENFP guy like him and have a love marriage.
I even wish that I was never myself so things could have worked out better. I am ashamed of being who I am. I wish I was someone else. My heart realized this and learned this bitter lesson. I came to the conclusion that no ENFP guy will ever want to pursue a girl like me. I don't deserve to be pursued by an ENFP guy. Anyways a relationship with an ENFP will be short-lived and most likely end in divorce in the future.
So things have been crazy so far for me. Plus I have to transfer to another college in Houston and will be starting my second year there as a transfer student. The thing is, I am very good friends with this awesome guy who I went to college with back in Chicago during my first year of college.
I met him during a drama club audition. I got to know him during drama club and I was able to make a connection with him since we had some shared interests. I developed strong feelings for him even though we are only friends. He is such a nice, sweet, optimistic, and a fun loving guy. Everyone loves being around him and he is approachable.
I miss seeing him everyday ever since I moved to Houston. He also misses me too and assured me that he will never stop being my friend and won't forget me. One problem is I felt little of jealous of him when I saw him dating someone else. I felt like the whole world was falling apart because I can't be the one for him and he is already taken.
Or I will just end up in a convent. All I deserve is to be chopped into pieces and fed to the hyenas because I wanted to be with someone like him and have a love marriage. I even wish that I was never myself so things could have worked out better with him. Sometimes, I started to feel like I am one of the unluckiest girl in the world because I can't be with an awesome guy like him.
I feel this way in my heart. I started to carry this in my mind. I don't think an ENFP guy will ever want to pursue a girl like me and our relationship will be short- lived anyways. There is no way it will ever happen! My heart just learned this bitter lesson. Just recently found out about each other's personality through MBTI test. We are indeed perfect for each other. I love him to the moon and back. His ideals and dreams really matches mine. Anyway, thank you for this. This article made my day. I even showed this article to him. We were both thrilled.
He is an ENFP and this describes our relationship perfectly. I am a enfp and I met a lady that is an infj. Everything said here about them is true. We can be together for very long in silence and when we discuss it is as if she is the modt intelligent lady in the world. She knows a little of almost everything. She understands my demon and monstrous dreams that scares me and asures me that it is not strange i am like that.
We tend to understand each other and i respect and love her so much. But I am confused about her love because she has not said anything. Her words are ash and soothing at same time. Should i be patient with her? What is your advice?
I am an infj and my sister is an enfp. I can't even begin to describe the connection we have always had. We didn't fight even though we were siblings and only 2 years apart. We shared friends and enjoyed it. She can talk me down fro. The edge of suicide and I make her think in more profound and witty ways. We both know what we have in each other.
There is no time depend together that we consider wasted. Even driving her to umc while she's in pain, we still spent 3. I have been misunderstood by everyone my entire life, including my family. But I know there is a reason I was given my sister. She is the reason I am still here today.
This description is scary accurate to how the characters are in a fictional story I made up for fun.
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Word of advice, INFJ likes to be pursued. They can be really awkward putting themselves out there, and it can feel unnatural. Some are better at it than others. They are total unicorns, that is for sure. They definitely enjoy the company of the ENFP. And likely are looking for such a person. We have been together for over 10 years. We broke up for about a year early in our relationship. Neither of us had done Myers Briggs test or counseling, we were young and fresh out of bad relationships.
We both though, greener grass Oh were we wrong. In a very INFJ moment she invited me to her house to just hang and be friends again. That lasted about 15 minutes. We were both hungry for that connection again both the physical and mental. No one else we had dated even came close. I feel for you. It's like tasting 50 year old scotch if you're into scotch Then being told they only made 1 bottle you'll have to wait another 50 years. If they are unaware of the connection, educate them.
We adore learning, and new concepts. Break out of your shell for us and make the 1st move. Greatness does not equal ease. The INFJ will press you to maturity and responsibility, but you'll find it's to make the creative spontaneity more sustainable, and productive so trust your INFJ, even when you don't want to hear it, let them ground you at times. Trust your ENFJ to do no harm if they really love you they would die a thlusand deaths for you,earn to accept that and not test too much or too harshly. The Heisenberg uncertainty principle pertains to love as well.
Be equally ready to run iff on a crazy adventure sith your ENFP, you'll never regret it. Yes she has a spike and she will stick it on your butt cheek, but only when she is scared that you're about to screw up really big and she knows she will fix it for you because she's too in love not to. Do whatever it takes. Rarely will you even meet one, much less have a 2nd chance at a romance with another one.
Don't even look at mine, I keeel you! With some of the signs, I read them and I could recall at least five different instances where that characteristic came out between us. I guess, being an INFJ and always being critical of myself, I always worry that people are judging me. Although we are not together anymore we keep in touch and going to movies and coffees. She will always be my best friend and I think i will always love her. We can't stand being apart of each other. I am so glad that this resonates with you! It makes me feel good as a writer and a consultant that these hubs jive with people and come off accurate.
That's always a plus for me. I hope things continue to go well in your relationship and your endeavors. Reading through this is like going back through my relationship with my husband and seeing glimpses of our past. This describes us to a T, and makes me smile from the inside out. When we met it was an instant connection and maybe it's the combination of what makes us similar and what makes us different that keeps us harmoniously together.
I cracked up when it said that we have tendencies to be hippies because I can totally see that. Also, the spontaneity thing is right on. I thought that was my mother's influence, but come to find out, it's part of my nature. I loved reading through this. It has been a great reminder of all of the good things that I have in our relationship. I discovered Myers Briggs yesterday and feel like it's the most accurate personality test I've come across. I'm an ENFP and have been with my partner for 5 years.
He is an INFJ! Seems like we were pretty fortunate to stumble across each other! I really enjoyed reading this. This is really accurate!!! It truly does feel like we were made for each other and bring out the best in the others personality. They like to hear from their significant others that they are loved and valued, and are willing and eager to return the favor.
They enjoy lavishing love and affection on their mates, and are creative and energetic in their efforts to please. The ENFP gets a lot of their personal satisfaction from observing the happiness of others, and so is generally determined to please and serve their partners. A problem area for ENFPs in relationships is their dislike of conflict and sensitivity to criticism.
They are perfectionists who believe that any form of criticism is a stab at their character, which is very difficult for them to take. Conflict situations are sources of extreme stress to the ENFP. They have a tendency to brush issues under the rug rather than confront them head-on, if there is likely to be a conflict. They are also prone to "give in" easily in conflict situations, just to end the conflict. They might agree to something which goes against their values just to end the uncomfortable situation.
In such cases, the problem is extended and will return at a later time. The ENFP needs to realize that conflict situations are not the end of the world. They are entirely normal, and can be quite helpful for the growth of a relationship.
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They also need to work on taking criticism for what it is, rather than blowing up any negative comment into an indictment against their entire character. Generally, the ENFP is a warm and affirming creature who is very interested and able to have an intense, meaningful, close relationship with their mate. How did we arrive at this? Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness; For even as He loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.
There's a bit of grown-up kid in every ENFP, so they get a lot of fun and enjoyment from playing with their children. However, they consider it essential to pass their strongly-held values and beliefs down to their children, and will strive consistently to create a positive, ideal environment for their children's growth. The ENFP may exhibit an inconsistency in their roles with their children. At one moment, they might be their child's best friend, laughing and whooping it up, and in the next moment they may appear the stern authoritarian. This inconsistency seems to be a result of a conflict between the ENFP's genuine desire to relate to their children on the children's level, and their compulsion to follow their deeply-felt value system.
In other words, the ENFP wants to be their child's friend, but if a value is violated, they will revert to the parental role to make sure their children understand the violation. This inconsistency may be confusing and frustrating for the children. They usually value their children as individuals, allowing them room for growth. The ENFP's enthusiasm and affection may at times seem smothering to their children. This will be especially true for children with strong Thinking or Sensing preferences, who will have a difficult time understanding the effervescence of the ENFP, and will feel at times embarassed by the ENFP's enthusiasm and tendency to display their affection publicly.
The ENFP is able to take care of day-to-day necessities, such as picking children up at the correct times, getting them to softball practice, getting them fed, etc. However, it is a chore for the ENFP and is not a natural strength. The ENFP also has a difficult time disciplining their children, unless a very strongly-held value has been violated. The rich imagination and creativity of the ENFP parent creates a fun, dynamic and exciting environment for kids. The ENFP's strong value system turns experiences into meaningful lessons for their children.
The ENFP parent is valued by their children for their warm, affirming natures, and their fun-loving approach to living. They are energetic and fun to be with. They are very affirming, and get great satisfaction from supporting and lifting up others. They are idealists who seek authenticity in their personal relationships. ENFPs are valued by their peers and confidantes as warm, supportive, giving people. In the workplace or other casual relationship environments, the ENFP is likely to get along well with almost all other types of people.