In , following widely supported public petitions, U. Pickup is often divided into different styles, referred to as "outer game", "inner game", "direct game", and "indirect game". Psychologist Petra Boynton has stated that there is "no evidence of effectiveness" for any claims of pickup artists. Despite primarily being a male movement, there are also female pick-up artists who use similar techniques to seduce men.
There are a variety of PUA "schools of thought" which promote numerous different methods.
These range from approaches that are very indirect, and which stress starting with casual conversation before building into a flirt, to methods in which attraction is communicated very openly and directly. Most PUAs acknowledge the distinction between so-called "inner game" and "outer game", where the former relates to techniques directed towards increasing one's self-confidence and mindset, whilst the latter are about actual interaction with real people. Inner game may involve taking greater care in one's looks and presentation, identifying and neutralising self-defeating mental habits also known as "limiting beliefs" , and developing mental routines to build confidence.
Outer game involves actual interaction with individuals and groups of people, from body language to conversation. The pick-up artist may frequent a self-help group and converse with MRA's men's rights activists , incels involuntary celibates , and other PUA's to discuss seduction tips. In The Game , Neil Strauss documents various practices that occur in the seduction community. Members of the community believe in achieving success with women through putatively scientific and empirical means, rather than by relying on good looks or intuitive instinct, or by following societal courtship conventions.
The practice of going out with the purpose of meeting women is known as "sarging", a term coined by Ross Jeffries , after his cat "Sarge". A pickup artist can "sarge" alone, or with a wingman.
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The Mystery Method describes seduction as a linear process involving three stages establishing attraction, building comfort, and seduction each of which involves a variety of techniques. Conor Friedersdorf lambasted the use of negging by pick-up artists, but admitted that, based on his observations, negging did appear to be effective at generating attraction from some women.
One constellation of PUA techniques, called "Last Minute Resistance" tactics LMR tactics , is designed to convince a woman to have sex after she has indicated that she doesn't want to. This includes tactics from those which are mutually beneficial — such as being okay with the woman being on her period — to "callous manipulation" and rape. Pickup artists generally assume the mindset that men should lead and initiate contacts and plans in general in order to be more attractive, and that women will not generally initiate contact although they want men to, requiring men to begin any interaction by approaching them, but many have also cultivated a sensitivity to direct and indirect signals of possible sexual interest.
Members of the seduction community often practice approaching and opening repetitively; some have done thousands of approaches.
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Strauss describes a pickup artist who did approaches in one day. The "Mystery Method"  encourages approaching groups of strangers, starting indirect conversations, and giving attention to all members of the group without initiating conversation with the "target" until attraction has been established.
Having a notorious reputation outside the community, the PUA movement has been described as sexist,  misogynist  pseudoscience,     and subterfuge. Roosh V has been called hateful and a misogynist for his views on women and sex by the Southern Poverty Law Center. Long Interviews with Hideous Men , criticizes the PUA community as frequently "absurd and sexist", "pushy and problematic" and encouraging adversarial gender roles.
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However, she also argues that PUA tactics are worth understanding because they are not unique to the PUA community, but instead represent society-wide beliefs and patterns and strategies of human sexual behaviour. Professional dating coach , radio personality and self help book author Alan Roger Currie has frequently criticized the seduction community and many of the misleading and manipulative tactics espoused by many of the more popular pickup artists. Currie is specifically critical of men giving women the misleading impression that they are interested in engaging in a long-term, emotionally profound, monogamous romantic relationship when those men know in reality that they are really seeking to engage in some form of short-term, non-monogamous, casual sex with these same women.
After year-old systems analyst George Sodini killed three women and himself in the Collier Township shooting , media asked whether he had been influenced by his involvement in the PUA community. The seduction community has received increased media attention,     since the publication of Neil Strauss ' article on the community in The New York Times ,  and his memoir The Game.
Response to the seduction community has been varied; it has been called misogynistic , and a review of The Game in the San Francisco Chronicle characterized the community as "a puerile cult of sexual conquest", and calls its tactics "sinister" and "pathetic". Feminists tend to be critical of the seduction community. Beatrix Campbell has stated that The Game "sexually objectifies women", arguing that "Nowhere from its description do you get a sense of men being helped to be human in an easy and agreeable way According to an article in Eye Weekly , some feminists believe that pickup "isn't just cheesy; it's offensive".
Avoid seeing women as conquests and men as competition. An article in the Houston Press claimed that the seduction community "isn't the lechfest it might sound like". The article quotes the webmaster of confidentup. This isn't just a game of words and seduction, it's an overall life improvement. Several writers describe observing men in the seduction community first-hand. Some women recount experiences with men they believed to be pickup artists who tried to "pick them up", and some men recount trying out pickup techniques.
Catherine Townsend, writing for The Independent , describes a negative experience with a man she believed was a pickup artist and used a lot of "negs" on her: An article in San Francisco Magazine recounts the experience the blogger "Dolly", who is the author of the popular sex blog The Truth about Cocks and Dolls , had with the seduction community. According to the article, Dolly was:.
That they want to get laid, too? Guys have always wanted sex and will continue to want sex. After spending three days immersed in a Mystery Method Corp now Love Systems seminar, Gene Weingarten expressed his uneasiness about "a step by step tutorial for men in how to pick up women, make them comfortable in your presence, and bed them, ideally within seven hours of your first meeting" and wondered aloud, "Is there something inherently wrong with the notion of seduction as a classroom-taught skill, complete with a long hierarchy of 'lines' that work, seemingly spontaneous topics of conversation that are anything but spontaneous, tricks for seeming 'vulnerable', and tips on how to behave so as to deliver subtle but effective nonverbal inducements to intimacy?
Rifkind describes initially struggling with seduction techniques, eventually learning to attract women's interest, and then feeling guilty. Rifkind writes, "After a little more practice, my 'game' is improving dramatically. I can open with fluency, and there's an injection of confidence which comes from knowing exactly what you are going to say next.
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As a human being and, perhaps more crucially, as somebody with a girlfriend, I feel like absolute scum. They were there to learn some techniques that would act as armour so they could at least talk to a girl. Gambler empathised with their plight. But then I changed. To do this we need to dominate the physical space by standing with our legs apart, cut out any fidgeting, and wave our arms about when dancing.
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